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Power in our culture is linked to gender. Starkly put, men are supposed to have it and Women are not. That is how I was raised anyway. Then I was confused by Feminism. I am a Feminist.....I swear, however, I wanted to also express my Feminine desires to surrender.

My name is Deborah Franklin and in this age of Feminism, a Woman expressing a desire to submit to one's partneris not socially accepted. However, for me I wanted to discover something deep inside of me. There was something stirring, but I felt that I could not reveal that side of myself and let it out. I felt being vulnerable. especially during sex was not socially accepted. In fact it is not. In today’s world of almost enforced Women's Liberation and growing independence, many Women are struggling.

I was a Woman who felt very misunderstood as a Sexually Submissive Woman. I realized that there were Women who would openly despise me if they were to somehow learn of my brand of vulnerability and submissive sexuality. Yet the fantasies I had of being dominated would not go away. They are fantasies that have been with me since I was a young Girl. In fact when I was a teen, I began to face this aspect of my sexuality and I became frightened. I masturbated to my sordid fantasies regularly and by the time I was fifteen they were etched into my psyche.

Just before turning seventeen I had my first full blown relationship. It was with a Lesbian. Soon my love relationship was discovered by my Mother. She discouraged me from pursuing this. So I began to experiment and eventually lost my virginity to a much older man. I was only seventeen. I then had numerous lovers throughout college. In fact I was married at age twenty two and lived within an open marriage lifestyle. But then things got rocky and I split with my first husband. For many reasons I became exclusively Lesbian and lived within that lifesltyle for over ten years. She was my Mentor and I was her submissive lover.

When that relationship ended I felt a void. I found myself with a man who soon became my husband. I remarried and am now living happily within a Taken By The Hand relationship with my Alpha Husband.

I have over the years come to learn that my need for submission is common and is something which exists among both men and Women. My fantasies took years for me to reconcile. During my Lesbian years I was a passionate Feminist and tried to repress many of my harshest submissve fantasies which had me being taken by a man. But one of the things that has helped me come to where I am today, was a realization that over the centuries countless Women have lived intentionally as the submissive within a ‘Taken By The Hand’ relationship.

Much attention has been given to what men need from Dominant Women, meanwhile sexually submissive Women like me have been ignored, our needs and feelings not addressed in any meaningful way. I no longer feel abandoned and understand that my sexuality makes me more exotic as a Female. When I have taken a risk and revealed my submissive nature to some of the Women I know, many have disclosed to me that they have similar too have fantasies of wanting to be forced to submit sexually. So I am now OK as a sexually enhanced Woman who knows what it is that she wants.

Who Am I?

I was born in Boston during the 1960’s and today am in my middle forties. I have been fortunate to have had a wide range of sexual experiences. I have been twice married. Today I am living in a committed ‘Taken By The Hand’ relationship with my Dominant Alpha Male Partner and it is here on this web site that I want to provide you with a Woman’s point of view on the acceptability of such a lifestyle.

I am often described as voluptuous and work as a professional amd live in a gentrifying neighborhood of Chicago.

If YOU are a Women who feels as I do, How do YOU reconcile as a Woman the need for this type of relationship with today's societal movement toward Female Dominance?

The fantasy many Women frequently have during intercourse is that they, "Imagine being overpowered or forced to surrender." I have over the years developed a very positive attitude about sex and have had a wide variety of sexual experiences. Within this new and exciting reality based web site I will share with readers the type of fantasies that are of central importance to me and many Women’s sexuality.

I welcome you to join as a member to read my new E-Zine, By The Hand for Women. The E-Zine and this web site is updated frequently. Are you a couple who wants to live within a BY THE HAND intentional lifestyle way of living. I invite you to to join my online community of lifestyle individuals who want to commit themselves to a lifetime of helping a Woman understand and accept her submissive needs and desires.

I am not writing about what much of today’s society wants you to read or hear or to even look at. A lot of what is inside will scare traditional Feminists who do not understand how it is possible for a Woman to live within today’s society and demand gender equality, but choose to live intentionally within a personal relationship where a Woman is submissive to another male or Female who is their Alpha.

The imagery that is presented within this web site represents a departure from traditional relationships and promotes the use of ones sexuality in a Total Power Exchange type of relationship.

Do You Find a Powerful Male or Female Sexually Attractive?

I assume you are here because you are interested in a ‘Taken By The Hand’ type of relationship and you find a Powerful Alpha Male or a Dominant Assertive Female sexually attractive. I am currently in relationship living as a lifestyle submissive female with a Dominant Male. I am now living as his cherished and loved little girl.

I have also lived in a submissive relationship with a Dominant Female. In all of my relationships, I have always preferred to surrender and be the subordinate partner. I want my partner to be the one who is In-Charge. In my current love relationship it is an Alpha Male who is the Absolute In Charge and is my Dominant Partner.

Some of the things that I write about reveal in great detail the background about how I have experienced sexual pleasure. I receive great pleasure when I am being overwhelmed and forced to do things. This giving of myself provides me with much pleasure and feelings of sexual satisfaction. You will find a wide variety of topics in the E-Zine. Some will follow emotional-romantic story lines and others will be rough and very intense.

You will find many images and articles in the By The Hand for Women E-Zine which are very explicit. Some are very sexual and refer to detailed and graphic imagery describing explicit sexual acts and anatomical detail. The Rape Fantasy Myth which some Women experience will be extensively explored to better understand why with consent this is an acceptable lovemaking style for some couples.

Both men and women are equally likely to fantasize about dominance and submission. However, my By The Hand for Women E-Zine is likely to interest you if you are a male or Female who wants to understand more about the ‘Taken By The Hand' Female submission relationship lifestyle.

Do You Play?

In the bedroom. power assumes many guises and meanings. Sexuality itself can be a fount of personal strength. Sexually you may feel entitled to pleasure but quite another type of power occurs when sex is denied to a partner. Between lovers, every nuance of sex ~ what acts are performed, in what order, in what position, in what mood, for how long, to what end reflects power in a relationship.

One of the most important questions I receive from Women about the concept I am in the midst of delivering for this web site are their concerns about its connections with real-world behavior. This question is particularly important when one considers male fantasies of dominance, including raping or otherwise overpowering someone. Do you dream of being blindfolded and on your knees and surrendering to a male?

This web site and my By The Hand for Women E-Zine does not condone any form of sexual violence, rape or male aggressive behavior. I very much support the position that Women are to be treated respectfully as gender equals and I have an egalitarian attitude about Women's place in today's society.

Want To Know More?

The By The Hand for Women E-Zine (see below) is written for men and Women with more stereotypically Feminine fantasies who hold less liberal attitudes about Women and express their belief that Women gain desire and pleasure in the type of sexual fantasies where Women freely give up their sexual power to a more dominant partner and have more conservative attitudes about Women's place in society.

Be advised that this web site provides a safe environment to explore a wide range of sexual fantasy. The content of this web site is adult oriented and includes explicitness and sexual content with emotional and romantic storylines that will appeal to both male and Female readers with the potential to take them beyond their fantasies and imagination and take them beyond past experiences.

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